Sunday, April 2, 2017
In 1948, Billy Graham was conducting a Crusade and one night a woman came to seduce him. He was not overcome by her seduction and in order to avoid future issues he and his ministry team started to develop a set of rules to govern themselves. They are as follows:
1. Operate with complete financial transparency. Meaning all financial issues are above board, completely accounted for, and managed by someone who is not the figurehead of the organization.
2. Avoid even the transparency of sexual immorality. A minister or male employee of the Billy Graham organization will not be alone with, travel with, eat with, or associate with a woman that he is not married to, or without his wife present. This was to avoid even the appearance of compromise or the suspicion of it.
3. Billy Graham's organization refused to criticize other ministries or pastors. Pretty self explanatory, but the idea here is that their job was to preach the Gospel of Jesus' death, burial, and resurrection and not to wage war against other camps.
4. The Billy Graham organization refused to exaggerate success. It is not uncommon in churches or businesses to claim more success than you are actually having.
So, those are the Billy Graham rules. Mike Pence is under pressure now for following number 2. He refuses to associate alone with any woman without his wife present. Much to the ire of todays moralists, he follows this rule. This week he has been called sexist, old fashioned, stupid, immoral, weak, childish, etc. Though I do not know Mike Pence, I am sure that these terms fit him well from time to time, as they fit all of us from time to time.
What I find most confusing, is that our known weaknesses have become our weaknesses. Much like the kids that we all laughed at in Kindergarten for having some perceived or actual abnormality that they were helpless to change on their own. I can remember being the child that was singled out from time to time and other times being one that singled others out for ridicule. It of course was wrong, but it happened.
Reading through the news headlines about Mr. Pence were all just about the same. However, I did come across one that proudly stated the following:
The problem with "don't eat alone with women": good character is better than strict rules.
I agree with this statement whole heartedly. I feel that a high moral standard and impeccable integrity are valuable things in any time and society, especially one as morally bankrupt as which we live in today. The moral man can accompany, counsel, associate, dine, or even cavort with any woman he so chooses and never once fall into the trap of sexual infidelity. This man has no need for rules.
The problem is this. I only know one man that fits this bill. Jesus Christ the Nazarene. People have been yelling and screaming on the internet how this rule is sexist. Degrading women to merely objects of sexual desire and saying that women need the same face time with men that is afforded other men. Maybe so, but I see a definite trap in forgoing rules to keep our sinfulness in check.
I find it so strange that our admittance of our sinfulness is now our sin in the eyes of the world. The Bible clearly teaches all are sinful. Every man, woman, and child among us. The Bible also says to flee from our sin, as well as to resist the Devil and he shall flee from us. How then, are we who are sinners to act if our barriers we have installed to keep us on the path towards righteousness are being broken down by our society? Is it a matter of self control or will? Should we just give in to temptation like everyone else?
Ask yourself this. Have you ever overcome any adversity on your own? Be honest. I will tell you this now the answer is a resounding no. If you grew up completely isolated in a sterilized pressure chamber in the remotest part of the galaxy and only had your own thoughts to guide you the answer would still be no, as you inherited traits from your mother and father that keep you alive. But, Man (meaning all of humankind) was not meant to live alone or in a vacuum. We are constantly bound to one another from cradle to grave. The one thing that binds us all together is that we all (men and women) are immoral sinful monsters of iniquity. Completely given over to our base desires to fulfil and serve self. This is why we have community. Community is built to help control our base desire.
In the Christian sense, we have community as Christ with our head. Jesus Christ the morally perfect God-Man who has no need for law, but followed it perfectly anyway. Christ not only followed the law, but He perfected it. Asking his followers to be wise as serpents but as harmless as doves.
Be wise - know your faults. Know that you need things in place to help keep you on the narrow path. Have boundaries (i.e. rules to live by), have a brother or sister in Christ that will keep you accountable, and most importantly take God's law serious and Christ's call for you to be perfect seriously (be perfect as your Father in Heaven is perfect.)
Be Harmless - know that the person next to you is also as week as you. Do not give opportunity to anyone to sin by your actions. You will be held accountable not only for your own sins, but also for the sins that you lead others into by your actions or through your inaction.
Sunday, March 12, 2017
This evening I was able to have a deep conversation with a few people that I dearly love. The conversation came around to expectations that we have for ourselves and for each other. Many of us admitted to having anxiety and sadness about how we have not lived up to our potential. This of course is a favorite topic of mine, due to it being how I see myself.
I oftentimes catch myself in mid-wish. Silently thinking to myself how if I had taken the right instead of left, gone straight instead of turning around, or done such and such better. A part of me desires to correct the things that I did wrong. But, like the bell that has been rung, we cannot undo the past. Although I am certain that God is capable of rewinding the clock if He so chooses, I am not sure that is His will for any of us. Like the sound when the bell is rung, so it is with my past experience shaping me to who I am today.
It is human nature to desire to be perfect. But in our fallen state and in a fallen world we lack the ability to do so. Sometimes the one thing we desire more than our own perfection is perfection in those around us. Knowing our own limitations (even if we don't care to admit them) we still have an unreasonable desire to not be troubled with the failure of those around us, especially those closest to us. You will see those expectations in almost every relationship: husband/wife, parent/child, employer/employee, friend/friend, etc.
This is the crux of what Jesus spoke about in Matthew 7. How often it is quoted. "Judge not lest ye be judged." Oh how we love to say that, and especially when we are the ones being judged. Jesus never commanded us not to judge or not to have high expectations of one another. On the contrary, He said "Be prefect, as your heavenly Father is perfect." Oh what a standard and a goal. One that we can desire after and strive for, but ultimately one that is completely out of our grasp. That is why Jesus came to die. So what does He mean by that? To not judge but to also be perfect.
A man is on a journey through a forest that is overgrown and dangerous. He is making bad progress and he slips down into deep pit. He struggles to jump out, to climb out, to dig out, but with everything he tries he sinks deeper into the pit. He yells out, he can hear people talking and walking by, but it seems that nobody cares. He finally gives up and decides he is better off dead and begins to regret ever starting his journey. Just then from up above he hears someone at the top of the pit. The man looks up and sees a friend. He cries out for help. His friend waves at him and jumps down into the pit. The man looks at his friend and says, "Why did you jump down here you fool? We are both going to die now." The friend smiles big, places a reassuring hand on his shoulder, and says, "Do not worry, I've been down here before. I know the way out."
What Jesus meant was that we are to use our shortcomings to soften ourselves to our brothers and sisters. He gave Himself for us and he expects each of us to treat each other accordingly.
Monday, March 6, 2017
My first friend has found out just recently one of their parents died. In speaking to my friend and offering condolences their demeanor can only be described as casual and unconcerned. Our close circle of friends are heartbroken for our friend and have expressed sorrow at the passing of their parent, but they just explained that they were not that close and it is what it is. They seemed more annoyed with the loose ends needing too be tied up.
My second friend learned recently that their spouse does not love them anymore. Their spouse asked for a divorce after announcing a few months earlier they were unhappy, and they were just tired of being unhappy all the time. They also explained how they have secretly developed an emotional attachment to a co-worker and feel this other person is now their best friend ever. Mind you just a few years earlier they said the same thing about my friend. My friend is full of sadness, anger, rage, and confusion. Not knowing which way to go or what to do now, they only know that their world has just turned upside down and it is impossible to fix the problem. All of the friends in this friends circle are outraged and want to seek vengeance on their behalf.
My third friend has learned recently their spouse has had an extramarital affair. The sordid details of the affair came not through direct revelation or discovery, but through rumors that all of their friends had gathered and shared. When my friend and their spouse were finally coming clean about the affair, the friends started to intervene and make comments not directly at the situation, but it was obvious these were veiled attempts to get a steamy response. My friend has handled this situation with great dignity and grace. The spouse has admitted to wrongdoing and my friend has forgiven them and vowed to make their marriage work. When speaking to those closest to this friend you can hear the outrage and anger in their voices. They feel that the spouse should pay dearly for the sin, but my friend asks them please leave us be and let us rebuild our marriage.
Be a sport tell me which one believes in God.
Sunday, March 5, 2017
I feel it necessary to share a recent experience. Being an Elder/Pastor of County Line Baptist Church in Bullard, TX, I receive many calls about our church on a fairly regular basis. Our church belongs to our local Southern Baptist county association, known as The Smith Baptist Association, and has for many years. In Baptist circles, each local Baptist church is an autonomous, self contained, self governed church. To the Baptist, there is no higher earthly authority than your local church where you are a member.
On the first Sunday evening of each month our church has a congregational prayer time. Usually a small number of our church gathers and we pray for God to work in specific areas of the Kingdom, our church, and our community. As I was leaving the prayer time this evening, I noticed I had missed a call from a local number I did not recognize. I called it back and asked if they had called me. The person on the other end of the line identified himself as a representative of our local Baptist association and that he was in charge of a program called M.O.R.E.
He explained that M.O.R.E. stands for More Out Reaching Everyone, or something to that effect. He inquired if we had evening services and I told him about our weekly services. He informed me that County Line Baptist had won an award through the M.O.R.E. program. He stated that our baptisms were over 15 percent of our church membership and we should be proud. Along with this award he wanted to present to our church a plaque during one of our meetings. He said it was quite an honor and we should be proud of ourselves and the work we are doing for Christ. He explained we should have received the award at our yearly associational meeting but for some reason County Line Baptist Church's ministers were not in attendance.
He thought he was telling me something I did not know. The truth is we all knew the association was trying to give this award to us. We chose not to attend based on personal conviction for the following reasons.
- I could care less what they think about me, my church, or our work for the Lord Jesus.
- Our church discussed this issue and this award and decided we did not think it was in our best interests to participate in a "pat me on the back" award program for doing what we are supposed to do for Jesus.
- Our association needs to put its resources to reaching the lost for Jesus and not creating commemorative plaques to show off how important we are.
- Finally and most importantly:
After I explained to him that County Line Baptist Church would not accept or welcome any award he said, "Well, there is nothing in the Bible saying that we can't give out awards." Well I guess Jesus and Paul said it best. You have the reward of your suffering. I hope your plaque gleams brightly for all the years it hangs in your church. As for County Line Baptist Church we will not accept any corruptible trophy.
I am independent, I am Baptist, I believe in the fundamentals of the Bible. Since when did Baptists care what anyone else thought about them? And I just love how our association likes to praise each other.